This is just enough writing, with a practical edge of necessity, for me. I have to get dressed in the morning. Here’s what the Outfits of the Week look like for week two back at work.
Low: dealing with a crappy individual who made me seriously hold back some hormonal eye-watering as my inside voice was asking ‘Why am I even here? Why am I not with my own sweet baby, instead of here at work?’
But then, there are so many other highs:
Monday was a combo of these two looks. Mustard sweater with big scarf, jeans and pendant necklace. A hat, obviously.
A big, bold print scarf is perfect armour for cold weather. Thanks, Pinterest.
This sweater (the actual one I own) was a no brainer. Simple studs. A bold bang. Jeans. Black loafers. People were amused by the sweater. I was amused by their amusement. It is a combo of mariachi, cowardly lion and 70s shag carpet. Perfect.
Keeping it minimal – with a Hoibo (Toronto designer! Support local) dress and accessories.
H&M Prairie Dress with ruffle. On Thursdays we wear floral.
With a sturdy boot; just a bit tough.
For Friday PD day… with some classic black Nike trainers – an army green bomber jacket and jeans. Image from bedazelive.com
Well, we made it. What was your fave outfit from this week?
I have been making the very best of it in nursing gear and feeling more and more comfortable with a messy bun, leggings and duck boots as my daily go-to. But lo and behold, it’s time to go back to work. Mat leave is done. Sob.
So, I cut my hair. And scoured the internet for outfit inspo to return to the daily grind (and not the kind that involves scouring the floor for renegade cheerios and packing, repacking and schlepping a diaper bag all over the city). I tried to make my life easier by inviting myself to a party – a plan two weeks of outfits so you can get up at 5 am, get a one year old ready, get out the door on time and go be profesh… without having to think of what you’re wearing. It’s the weekly meal-prep of outfits.
Chop chop! First, I needed a fresh bang to start work and feel as cool as the new near-zero temperatures.
From Monday to Friday, I basically recreated these looks:
From Dress Design Queen
For the snow day… black sweatshirt and tee, with a toque and leather jacket.
From Always Judging: crisp oversized dress shirt with big gold chains (buttoned up, obvs). High waisted denim. Leopard print oxfords. Red lip.
Merrick’s Art : This blog has a great range of wearable inspiration and outfit ideas.
Crushed it. First week down. The funny thing is… I feel like I never left. Maybe some of that is dressing for something other than nursing. And dressing for myself was pretty key to feeling right at home in front of a class for the past five days. Can’t wait to keep this pretty ball rolling.
Real talk. It’s hard to pull it together she. Your day starts at 5 am.
Saw a lovely post from a teacher who speaks about coming out, after marrying her wife.
He roost reminded me why I came out and keep coming out each year, each semester, in each new class. Being out in my classroom is one of the most valuable lessons and teachable moments I have to offer. It shows closeted kids or those with queer family that it’s possible to live a beautiful, rich and happy life; to be a professional; to be respected and successful as a queer person.
What else motivates me to be out in my classroom? It provides visibility and hope to kids and a learning opportunity about the diversity within our community. So many important steps towards inclusion and acceptance begin with the risk of being seen. For many it is about knowing someone and having that relationship spark the curiosity to question what we have learned or previously taken as truth. It’s hard to bear hatred or intolerance when you have a face to put to the name, whatever the marginalized group or person may be. I am their teacher. Someone they know and care about. Someone who has modelled caring and for respect for all the things that make them who they are. I actively teach anti-oppression and critical thinking about diversity, myth-busting the rhetoric that too frequently is used to promote intolerance.
If it’s safe to do so… come on out. Our kids need to see you there.
Motherhood has bested me. I don’t know where mommy bloggers find the time to keep up daily or even weekly posts!
Accordingly, I’ve let my premium account lapse, so I don’t really know tbh what that will look like for the site. You’ll still find me at stylesavie.com
Now my days are filled with routines, lots of feeding and naps, and so many ups and downs. It has all been a bit of a blur; Mexico, Jamaica, Niagara-on-the-Lake; mommy classes, swimming and park hangouts, playdates; and a bit of time for writing…
I’m being published in this beautiful collection by The Vault, entitled On Mothering.
The work includes writing from 20 contributors, Illustrated by Wenting Li.
“In this 94-page collection of honest stories and full-colour visual art, 22 contributors tackle their feelings about the most universal of human experiences: the balancing act of caring for someone else without losing yourself in the process.
The term “mother” conjures different associations depending on our own personal experiences, our cultures, and our desires. We need to consider what care means in our communities, and the value that we ascribe to it.
The stories in this collection are for and by mothers, future mothers, but also atypical caregivers like doulas and pet moms. It is for anyone who has ever had a mother; for parents who have birthed or raised children; for anyone who has ever questioned their relationship to care, emotional labour, or sacrifice in the name of love.”
That’s what I’ve been up to. Very much looking forward to the launch party this Wednesday. If you are local, come check it out, July 11 in Toronto. You can subscribe digitally, to help support the kind of art you want to see, created by diverse contributors, at The Vault.
Let me know, in the comments below, if there are entries and topics you’d like to see covered here. I love a good prompt.
K getting comfy for his second trip. Photo: @thisiseyecandytoronto
We are off again, this time to Jamaica for a wedding. Last time we travelled, he was 2.5 months. Now he will be 7 months. Here is our list of top tips from our travels the first time, followed by an itemized (to the last detail) list of what is in his (and our) suitcase.
Our first trip was to Mexico with a 2.5 month old. I was and still am breast feeding, with some bottles to supplement and he is sleeping in a travel crib. In Nuevo Vallarta, we had a dishwasher while there, but also boiled bottles on the stove to sterilize. We brought a carryon with his formula and diapers and packed his clothes with our stuff. Since he wasn’t mobile we had his infant car seat and stroller for the car rides and for getting around the condo, amenities and city.
For our Jamaica trip with a seven month old, skip to the next section.
For a 14 day trip, here’s what worked for us:
-our regular infant carseat strapped into back seat of taxis and shuttle, rear facing, using seat belt
-some people hold their babies on transit (don’t know if you’re comfortable with this; I wasn’t)
-beware the cobblestone streets, it made wheeling a napping baby around a bit touch and go
-used coconut oil as sun protection (but kept him totally out of sun/shaded/screened)
-took a baby carrier, but it was quite hot to wear an infant! This was a good option for shorter trips
-people were so lovely with baby and very friendly.
-breast fed everywhere I went – literally everywhere.
-I was nervous for the flight, but fed him while I was going up and down
-take a change for baby (several) and for you (poop explosion on landing made me VERY happy I had a change of top (couldn’t change him due to turbulence)
-took a travel bassinet which was great cause we could drape it (no bugs and shaded) for when he slept indoors and out. It’s a small folding kind that fits easily in a suitcase and under the stroller.
-I took a small rolling suitcase of formula and extra diapers so we’d have what he is used to – ready to serve Good Start (so we didn’t have to mix at all).
-I had a drink while feeding or right after, which meant I didn’t need to dump. Fed him formula if I’d had more than one drink.
-Try not to be nervous. It was a great vacation, but the pace is TOTALLY different than before I had a baby (which I expected).
And I also have a few things to add to the list, now that baby will be older:
travelling with a baby I have considered bringing along my nursing pillow for the flight and a large outdoor blanket to use in the airport (one that folds up really nicely – that way when waiting at the airport and at the resort we can let him do floor time)
Having a roll of dog poop bags would be handy for diapers
Bring a plastic bag big enough to wrap around your baby in case of gate-side blowouts or deplaning incidents
quiet activities for the plane
hard bottomed shoes for when he wants to ‘walk’ around on public surfaces
We checked out a great photo popup museum called This Is Eye Candy for these fun family shots
Graco Infant Carseat
Stroller gate-check bag
Collapsible umbrella stroller
Jolly Jumper for playtime at the hotel and my in-laws’ house
clip on Inglesina travel high chair (also figure we can leave him in this at the table to play)
Inflatable pool floatie/chair with sunshade
Milk Snob stroller cover for shade in his carseat
UV/solar blocking bug net for stroller
Stroller pad with heat-reducing cushion
Carabiners for attaching diaper bag to the collapsible umbrella stroller
Mattress cover for hotel crib mattress (washable)
Beco baby carrier
one soft toy, a rattle and a few chew toys
baby stroller clip-on battery powered fan ** a mom friend recommended this!
Health and Care Products
Nosefrida and saline drops
Camelia and Coryzalia natural remedies for tummy upset and congestion
squeezie packs of food, baby Mum Mums, dissolving star crackers, baby oat cereal
diapers and swim diapers (plus reusable swim covers)
sleep owl nightlight and sound machine
body wash and shampoo, lotion and diaper cream
2 baby spoons, 1 bowl, 1 360 sippy cup
noise cancelling headphones
Change of clothes in the diaper bag (2 for baby, one for mommy)
Vitamin D drops
Anti-mosquito stickers for baby’s clothes
Baby cot mosquito net
Medication and vitamins for mommy (in my case, daily vitamin and Domperidone)
swim diapers (2)
rashguard suits (3)
towel (if there aren’t ones at the hotel) and washcloth
3 pairs shoes
bibs (4 for drool, 3 for feeding)
3 footed sleepers
5 pairs of shorts
3 pairs of pants
one long sleeve linen shirt
6 short sleeved bodysuit
13 shorties onesies (rompers). We figure he’ll go through two a day of these.
2 burp cloths, 3 large muslins (1 each for the plane)
2 swim hats, one cap
1 short romper for wedding. 1 longsleeve wedding ‘gentleman’s suit’
Off we go! Wish us luck and let us know if there is anything I forgot on this list!
I’ve been dreaming of a makeover for our basement playroom. Book shelves, reading corners, bunting, chalk paint, soft flooring, cozy cushions, art supplies and furniture in a tiny size are all on my vision board. Here we go! all images from Pinterest, the perfect place to collect your thoughts.
I love a quick jaunt out of town. Getting out of the house with baby is a must for this stir crazy new mom.
I headed to Niagara on the Lake, picturesquely snow-dusted and quaint, for four days – while my wife went to Montreal on location for a work shoot.
Travelling with little man is much easier with a solid place to land and since my parents retired in Niagara, it makes for an easy retreat … replete with breweries, trivia nights, great restaurants and all the charm of a turn of the century village – (plus nana and papa’s house has lots of great toys).
Falling asleep early with the moon over the snowy orchards is also pretty sweet. As is having a few extra sets of hands to make showering and brushing your hair possible.
Niagara on the lake, NOTL to the locals, makes for a nice relaxing staycation (with family). And just like that, our little babe is 15 weeks old. We played cards, ate half priced filet mignon burgers and beer tastings. It gave us both a chance to get dressed up to go out.
At Oast House Brewery a gentleman came up to tell us that my son was the best dressed person in the bar. In buffalo plaid, he matched the barkeep and was channeling Gaston (in style only) for an Uber-ironic nod to lumberjacks and small-batch-brewing hipster style.
Side note: If you ever wondered who goes to breweries and keeps them open on a weekday?…it’s a popular meetup spot for nursing Moms. No lie. Seriously… we were at Henderson’s Brewery in Toronto last week, in a snowstorm, on a Tuesday and it was FULL of mommies with babes in arms.
Cheers to another beautiful week with this little guy!
We have had a number of experiences with people calling the donor the ‘father’. I came across this post today and it really summed things up for me. @Raffinee captures my feelings about how to handle those encounters.
carseat, base (or learn to safely install without the base), stroller attachment
changes of clothes for you
I’m investigating, in advance of travel, to see if our destination stocks the formula, diapers and other things we like for baby. If we can avoid taking a week’s supply, that will really save on space
Also, look up whether breast feeding in public is safe/legal/recommended in your destination
Sleep Sheep or white noise machine
medications (like Domperidone, for me)
vitamins for you and vitamin D for baby
coconut oil for sun protection for the babe
a UV protecting cover for the stroller. Jolly Jumper makes a great one and Milk Snob has a great cover that doubles as a nursing screen
Diaper cream and corn starch
Baby paper and some simple toys (we ended up getting some beautiful, colourful pompom garlands in a market, which he couldn’t take his eyes off. These now hang over his change table! But careful that he isn’t unsupervised, as with anything that involves string)
Nosefrida (for air travel and stuffiness)
Gripe Water if you have a gassy baby
We upgraded our tickets and baby’s first trip was in Business Class.
For Clothes, we knew we’d have access to in-suite laundry, so we packed:
Shorts and pants
Short-onesies/rompers (this was the majority of the outfits)
Pajamas – for the plane and at night with the A/C
Burp cloths and muslin wraps
A knit jacket/sweater for air conditioned spaces and the plane
Copy of his birth certificate, immunization record, passport, health card
Swimming with baby was an amazing first.
Fanny pack, a carry on for us, carry on Diaper bag, small purse, big suitcase x 2 (one for us and one for all the baby stuff), a small suitcase of diapers and formula.
We made a call to set up/confirm our travel insurance/health insurance, etc.
We arranged a cat and house sitter, and also opted to use the Park ‘N Fly valet service (plus detailing) so we came home to a happy cat, safe home and a clean car.
Adios, Mexico and Gracias for a great first vacay with our blossoming family.
What are your travel must-haves? Share your faves in the comments!