Saw a lovely post from a teacher who speaks about coming out, after marrying her wife.
He roost reminded me why I came out and keep coming out each year, each semester, in each new class. Being out in my classroom is one of the most valuable lessons and teachable moments I have to offer. It shows closeted kids or those with queer family that it’s possible to live a beautiful, rich and happy life; to be a professional; to be respected and successful as a queer person.
What else motivates me to be out in my classroom? It provides visibility and hope to kids and a learning opportunity about the diversity within our community. So many important steps towards inclusion and acceptance begin with the risk of being seen. For many it is about knowing someone and having that relationship spark the curiosity to question what we have learned or previously taken as truth. It’s hard to bear hatred or intolerance when you have a face to put to the name, whatever the marginalized group or person may be. I am their teacher. Someone they know and care about. Someone who has modelled caring and for respect for all the things that make them who they are. I actively teach anti-oppression and critical thinking about diversity, myth-busting the rhetoric that too frequently is used to promote intolerance.
If it’s safe to do so… come on out. Our kids need to see you there.
K getting comfy for his second trip. Photo: @thisiseyecandytoronto
We are off again, this time to Jamaica for a wedding. Last time we travelled, he was 2.5 months. Now he will be 7 months. Here is our list of top tips from our travels the first time, followed by an itemized (to the last detail) list of what is in his (and our) suitcase.
Our first trip was to Mexico with a 2.5 month old. I was and still am breast feeding, with some bottles to supplement and he is sleeping in a travel crib. In Nuevo Vallarta, we had a dishwasher while there, but also boiled bottles on the stove to sterilize. We brought a carryon with his formula and diapers and packed his clothes with our stuff. Since he wasn’t mobile we had his infant car seat and stroller for the car rides and for getting around the condo, amenities and city.
For our Jamaica trip with a seven month old, skip to the next section.
For a 14 day trip, here’s what worked for us:
-our regular infant carseat strapped into back seat of taxis and shuttle, rear facing, using seat belt
-some people hold their babies on transit (don’t know if you’re comfortable with this; I wasn’t)
-beware the cobblestone streets, it made wheeling a napping baby around a bit touch and go
-used coconut oil as sun protection (but kept him totally out of sun/shaded/screened)
-took a baby carrier, but it was quite hot to wear an infant! This was a good option for shorter trips
-people were so lovely with baby and very friendly.
-breast fed everywhere I went – literally everywhere.
-I was nervous for the flight, but fed him while I was going up and down
-take a change for baby (several) and for you (poop explosion on landing made me VERY happy I had a change of top (couldn’t change him due to turbulence)
-took a travel bassinet which was great cause we could drape it (no bugs and shaded) for when he slept indoors and out. It’s a small folding kind that fits easily in a suitcase and under the stroller.
-I took a small rolling suitcase of formula and extra diapers so we’d have what he is used to – ready to serve Good Start (so we didn’t have to mix at all).
-I had a drink while feeding or right after, which meant I didn’t need to dump. Fed him formula if I’d had more than one drink.
-Try not to be nervous. It was a great vacation, but the pace is TOTALLY different than before I had a baby (which I expected).
And I also have a few things to add to the list, now that baby will be older:
travelling with a baby I have considered bringing along my nursing pillow for the flight and a large outdoor blanket to use in the airport (one that folds up really nicely – that way when waiting at the airport and at the resort we can let him do floor time)
Having a roll of dog poop bags would be handy for diapers
Bring a plastic bag big enough to wrap around your baby in case of gate-side blowouts or deplaning incidents
quiet activities for the plane
hard bottomed shoes for when he wants to ‘walk’ around on public surfaces
We checked out a great photo popup museum called This Is Eye Candy for these fun family shots
Graco Infant Carseat
Stroller gate-check bag
Collapsible umbrella stroller
Jolly Jumper for playtime at the hotel and my in-laws’ house
clip on Inglesina travel high chair (also figure we can leave him in this at the table to play)
Inflatable pool floatie/chair with sunshade
Milk Snob stroller cover for shade in his carseat
UV/solar blocking bug net for stroller
Stroller pad with heat-reducing cushion
Carabiners for attaching diaper bag to the collapsible umbrella stroller
Mattress cover for hotel crib mattress (washable)
Beco baby carrier
one soft toy, a rattle and a few chew toys
baby stroller clip-on battery powered fan ** a mom friend recommended this!
Health and Care Products
Nosefrida and saline drops
Camelia and Coryzalia natural remedies for tummy upset and congestion
squeezie packs of food, baby Mum Mums, dissolving star crackers, baby oat cereal
diapers and swim diapers (plus reusable swim covers)
sleep owl nightlight and sound machine
body wash and shampoo, lotion and diaper cream
2 baby spoons, 1 bowl, 1 360 sippy cup
noise cancelling headphones
Change of clothes in the diaper bag (2 for baby, one for mommy)
Vitamin D drops
Anti-mosquito stickers for baby’s clothes
Baby cot mosquito net
Medication and vitamins for mommy (in my case, daily vitamin and Domperidone)
swim diapers (2)
rashguard suits (3)
towel (if there aren’t ones at the hotel) and washcloth
3 pairs shoes
bibs (4 for drool, 3 for feeding)
3 footed sleepers
5 pairs of shorts
3 pairs of pants
one long sleeve linen shirt
6 short sleeved bodysuit
13 shorties onesies (rompers). We figure he’ll go through two a day of these.
2 burp cloths, 3 large muslins (1 each for the plane)
2 swim hats, one cap
1 short romper for wedding. 1 longsleeve wedding ‘gentleman’s suit’
Off we go! Wish us luck and let us know if there is anything I forgot on this list!
I love a quick jaunt out of town. Getting out of the house with baby is a must for this stir crazy new mom.
I headed to Niagara on the Lake, picturesquely snow-dusted and quaint, for four days – while my wife went to Montreal on location for a work shoot.
Travelling with little man is much easier with a solid place to land and since my parents retired in Niagara, it makes for an easy retreat … replete with breweries, trivia nights, great restaurants and all the charm of a turn of the century village – (plus nana and papa’s house has lots of great toys).
Falling asleep early with the moon over the snowy orchards is also pretty sweet. As is having a few extra sets of hands to make showering and brushing your hair possible.
Niagara on the lake, NOTL to the locals, makes for a nice relaxing staycation (with family). And just like that, our little babe is 15 weeks old. We played cards, ate half priced filet mignon burgers and beer tastings. It gave us both a chance to get dressed up to go out.
At Oast House Brewery a gentleman came up to tell us that my son was the best dressed person in the bar. In buffalo plaid, he matched the barkeep and was channeling Gaston (in style only) for an Uber-ironic nod to lumberjacks and small-batch-brewing hipster style.
Side note: If you ever wondered who goes to breweries and keeps them open on a weekday?…it’s a popular meetup spot for nursing Moms. No lie. Seriously… we were at Henderson’s Brewery in Toronto last week, in a snowstorm, on a Tuesday and it was FULL of mommies with babes in arms.
Cheers to another beautiful week with this little guy!
carseat, base (or learn to safely install without the base), stroller attachment
changes of clothes for you
I’m investigating, in advance of travel, to see if our destination stocks the formula, diapers and other things we like for baby. If we can avoid taking a week’s supply, that will really save on space
Also, look up whether breast feeding in public is safe/legal/recommended in your destination
Sleep Sheep or white noise machine
medications (like Domperidone, for me)
vitamins for you and vitamin D for baby
coconut oil for sun protection for the babe
a UV protecting cover for the stroller. Jolly Jumper makes a great one and Milk Snob has a great cover that doubles as a nursing screen
Diaper cream and corn starch
Baby paper and some simple toys (we ended up getting some beautiful, colourful pompom garlands in a market, which he couldn’t take his eyes off. These now hang over his change table! But careful that he isn’t unsupervised, as with anything that involves string)
Nosefrida (for air travel and stuffiness)
Gripe Water if you have a gassy baby
We upgraded our tickets and baby’s first trip was in Business Class.
For Clothes, we knew we’d have access to in-suite laundry, so we packed:
Shorts and pants
Short-onesies/rompers (this was the majority of the outfits)
Pajamas – for the plane and at night with the A/C
Burp cloths and muslin wraps
A knit jacket/sweater for air conditioned spaces and the plane
Copy of his birth certificate, immunization record, passport, health card
Swimming with baby was an amazing first.
Fanny pack, a carry on for us, carry on Diaper bag, small purse, big suitcase x 2 (one for us and one for all the baby stuff), a small suitcase of diapers and formula.
We made a call to set up/confirm our travel insurance/health insurance, etc.
We arranged a cat and house sitter, and also opted to use the Park ‘N Fly valet service (plus detailing) so we came home to a happy cat, safe home and a clean car.
Adios, Mexico and Gracias for a great first vacay with our blossoming family.
What are your travel must-haves? Share your faves in the comments!
Still rolling along with little one on slow cook. Fall temperatures have brought some relief, but Summer seems to be making a comeback with some warm and sunny weather. This far along, dresses are my best friend.
Lots of dresses in my life, from top left, Anthropologie navy with white dots, Winners red and black mod flowers, psychedelic silky tunic from a clothing swap, and an oversized black and white spotted Zara dress shirt with peplum. All worn with some variation of black leggings and boots or jeans and boots. Never skip a chance to wear your res lipstick (if you’re into that sort of thing).
Maternity leave has started, leaving time for a bit more writing and… waiting. So here come the throw-backs. Allia and I were so blessed to have two gorgeous baby showers thrown in honour of our pending arrival. The first was summertime barbecue, with beautiful weather, beautiful friends and family. The second was at a friend’s stunning farmhouse Country Showers Bring Sweet … Horses!
We are so lucky to have a warm, wild and fiercely loving group of family and friends-who-are-like-family to help celebrate and guide us as we get ready to be mamas. This was shower number one of two and we already feel so spoiled… all smiles, all day. #thankyou!!! #lesbianmoms #babyshower #rainbowfamily
A backyard bbq, swimming pool and games for the kiddos was a hoot. The weather was cooperative and the decor was handmade by yours truly and my friend Lindsay.
My friends and family are a colourful bunch. My mom, in yellow, is over the moon about the upcoming arrival.
Whether poolside, or the country equivalent, being surrounded by loved ones helps the anticipation build and shows you what an incredible community is waiting to love your little one and support you on that journey.