Every coming out story is set in a small town. Whether urban, suburban or remotely rural … When you are dealing with family, the stories we tell, the people who have known us our whole lives and who make up our world, changing how others tell the story of your life, and questions like ‘what will everyone think?’- it doesn’t matter what locality or geography surrounds that experience as much as it matters that it can feel like your whole world is shattering. Your piece of it, big or small, will never feel the same again. I just watched a film and although I will never know what it’s like to live in Oklahoma … I have lived moments of heartbreak like that film.
Day 102
Uncategorized10 Things to Love about Niagara on the Lake
IndulgeThis long weekend, we soaked up the sunshine and sweetness of the Niagara-on-the-Lake region. There are infinite reasons to love this locale, but here are an easy ten:
ONE: The wineries
En route to Niagara, we stopped at Suann Staff Estate Winery, for a tasting in their state of the art kitchen, and then popped by Westcott Winery for their celebration of redheads… Gingerfest. The duck confit poutine and lobster grilled cheese were amazing! We finished with a very tasty board of sweets.

It’s a place where you can relax with a glass of wine … and your kids can run around in a field. With glorious views … it feels exactly like a weekend should feel.
TWO: Breweries

We cannot say enough good things about Oast House brewery. It’s just awesome. Their vibe is unpretentious… more than it should be for such EXCELLENT beer. They have live music, great snacks and a slammin’ new patio. I wish this was just a skip away from our house. The view of the vinyard is so enchanting! Oh, and their beer – so, so good. 
If beer ‘touring’ is your thing, consider also checking out The Exchange, right downtown on the main strip. It’s a two-storey brewhouse with a classy interior and lovely sampling options (see above). Also on our list, Silversmith is hopping, day and night, with music, friendly servers and some truly outstanding food (sticky pickle wings and shrimp po-boys… and oysters, check out the pics below). The venue is a re-purposed church with glorious high ceilings. You can even leave a note for a friend, letting them know that you’ve bought a pint for them to enjoy later!
TWO: Bicycle touring

THREE: The food
FOUR: The architecture and flora

So many flowers. Everywhere you turn there is a cuter vignette, a quainter cottage, a more lovely yard. Below, …Just a few of the blooms on my parents’ property.
FIVE: The theatre
SIX: Family
SEVEN: The small town feeling.
With walking trails, bicycles, horse-drawn carriages, verandas covered in blooms, wide streets and folks who say ‘good morning’ as you pass, NOTL has all the charm of a small town. It even has the regular breakfast joint where an egg special costs less than four bucks.
EIGHT: The history
From historic battles and forts, to the Silversmith Brewery (in an old church), to antique markets, and the first home in the region owned by freed African Americans (formerly slaves)… there is history at every turn.
TEN: The Scene
We love the city. But. Our favourite place to unwind is in Niagara, surrounded by friends and family. There is always a local festival, a pop up market, a tasting, a concert. And it’s always delicious, regardless of the season. We love that our servers remember us from last time; we get waves ‘hello,’ and friendly smiles; we know where to go for what… and exploring is as fresh and exciting now as it was when my family first moved here. If you haven’t been yet, do. 
Things to check out: The chocolate festival. The icewine festival. The Blues and the Jazz festivals. Get the picture? From the chilly nights warmed by icewine cocktails and live music, to the sunshiny afternoons of handmade markets, garden tours and the Shaw Festival versus Stratford Festival cricket match. This is a town that knows how to take a weekend and make it memorable.
Oh, snap! If you love your Social Media, NOTL is the perfect backdrop. x0 A+A



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UncategorizedThe un-Conference
Open LettersOur voices conference
UncategorizedWeekend Winery Warrior
UncategorizedDot dot dot
UncategorizedDay 97
Uncategorizedthe day to end it
Open Letters
Yesterday was the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia and Biphobia!
What is IDAHOT? For 12 years, this day has been celebrated to “draw the attention of policymakers, opinion leaders, social movements, the public and the media to the violence and discrimination experienced by LGBTI people internationally… when LGBTI communities mobilize on a worldwide scale.
The Day represents an annual landmark to draw the attention of decision makers, the media, the public, opinion leaders and local authorities to the alarming situation faced by lesbian, gay, bisexuals, transgender and intersex people and all those who do not conform to majority sexual and gender norms.”
As the IDAHOT site explains, “May 17 is now celebrated in more than 130 countries, including 37 where same-sex acts are illegal, with 1600 events reported from 1280 organizations in 2014. These mobilisations unite millions of people in support of the recognition of human rights for all, irrespective of sexual orientation or gender identity or expression.”
This Is What Inspiration Looks Like:
I spent the day with over 300 young leaders and activists from Halton, at a gorgeous farm, listening to speakers and attending workshops.
Our day included a First Nations welcome and circle dance, performances by IllNaNa Dance, poet Jenna Tenn-Yuk and keynote delivered by MPP Cheri DiNovo.
Getting 300 people to form concentric circles and dance in the morning sunshine was pretty amazing. In this symbolic shape, no one is more important than anyone else. We are all connected. Everyone is equal. Recognizing that we are on colonized land, while we do this anti-oppression work, is a key part of building awareness.

Forget Kanye. I was in the presence of true greatness today, listening to Cheri DiNovo speak. She was so amazing and I, as a lesbian, owe her more than I could have realized before hearing her keynote address. She helped to introduce and get more LGBTQ legislation passed in Canada than anyone in our history. She performed the first gay marriage in Canada. She is spearheading the equal parents bill and trans rights bills. I was particularly touched by her advocacy for lesbian parents who – at this exact moment – don’t have legal rights to their partners’ babies. Even if conceived (of) together… if my wife were in a medical emergency and had carried our baby, I wouldn’t be allowed to leave the hospital with our baby or have legal rights regarding our child. This is horrifying and we need to change it now. This woman exemplifies activism and humility, encouraging youth to be the change – as she closed with a story of her own ironic journey:
As a street-involved, young queer person, she spent nights, at 16 years old, sleeping outside in Toronto’s Queen’s Park… under the same window that she now looks out from in her office as a Member of Provincial Parliament.She went back to school and transformed her life… and subsequently, the lives of so many queer people in Canada.
DiNovo also spoke about the incredible vulnerability of the trans community, citing Toby Dancer and Toby’s Law, which she has been instrumental in passing. This law added ‘gender identity and gender expression’ to our Human Rights Code. Ground breaking! Side note: there is a stained-glass window of Toby in a local church – perhaps the only one of a trans person in a church … in the world!
From politics, to short stories, to poetry and dance – the day was as diverse as the room.
When students come together, smiles on their faces, to celebrate activism, learning, leadership and equality, it’s no wonder the sun was shining!

Vegan lunches in the sunshine.
With some irony, the setting was a historic village, with old ‘general stores’ and juxtaposed against the past, we worked to make the future better for future generations.
I’m excited to see what lies ahead, as we venture through these doors, mindful of the past and energized for the long road that stretches before us.











